Why does DH do this? When I ask him if I'm fat he replies "You're beautiful. I love you."
Ditto for "Does my hair look silly?" or "Do you think I'm weird looking?"or “Does this dress make me look like the back of a bus?”
Why can't he just answer truthfully?
I'll tell you why.
If he said, "Yes, you're fat" he'd have to deal with one upset wife and life wouldn't be too comfortable for him for a few days.
If he said, "No, you're not fat" I'd accuse him of not telling the truth and life wouldn't be too comfortable for me for a few days.
So he resorts to his stock answer:
"You're beautiful. I love you."
I love you too, honey!
Ditto for "Does my hair look silly?" or "Do you think I'm weird looking?"or “Does this dress make me look like the back of a bus?”
Why can't he just answer truthfully?
I'll tell you why.
If he said, "Yes, you're fat" he'd have to deal with one upset wife and life wouldn't be too comfortable for him for a few days.
If he said, "No, you're not fat" I'd accuse him of not telling the truth and life wouldn't be too comfortable for me for a few days.
So he resorts to his stock answer:
"You're beautiful. I love you."
I love you too, honey!
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I loved reading this post. Not only is it beautifully written, but it is so wise. Since I haven't been married that long, I'm always eager to learn. I'll definitely keep this in mind and not get mad next time DH gives me a "way out" answer like that. Why do we women have to ask these things, anyway? I constantly do this, even though I know in advance that a) I won't get a real answer and b) what the answer should be. I have a mirror, don't I? ;o)
We do have mirrors but we tend to be our own worst critics and we focus on one 'fault' and blow it out of proportion. When we look in the mirror all we can see is that one 'fault' overpowering everything else.
What we need to remember is our husbands love us for who we are. To them we're the most beautiful women on earth.